THE YAPOSPHERE

 Album of My Youth  Opinions are obviously very subjective, so for me to say this album is one of the best of all time is very easily debatable and should someone choose to challenge it, they would probably have solid points to make based on their opinion. That being said, it is subjectively one of the best albums of all time. My ability to enjoy any piece of work, from movies to music, is and will always be based on its ability to evoke emotion out of me and never just on its ability to entertain. I did not major in music in university so I have no idea how to determine the quality of an album, all I have are my thoughts and feelings. So literally argue with the wall. One of my favourite things about this entire album is that not one song is about a man cheating on her. It is in its entirety about how disappointing the men she has encountered are at every turn and if I can’t relate to any other feeling regarding romantic relationships with men, I have disappointment down to a...

The presentation of your life, if you choose to share it, does not have to be easily digestible or perfectly curated for whatever organizations decide will sell this month. The mess is good. Waking up in a regular house that isn't painted beige & grey is fine, not having a 12 step skin care routine is fine too. Drinking mint tea instead or hot chocolate instead of matcha is fine. I swear if you don't mimic something that you see online that is perfectly marketed to attach to your desires (aka your wallet), your life is just as beautiful & just as perfect. Even if it's a little messy. It's you, and if you're going to give this world the privilege to know you then they should know the real you. Not the one you think will be acceptable because it already was.  Authenticity over Trends! 

Turn the wigs around!  Dreamgirls and Colleen  Growing up I never got the hype around this movie. A staple in the black community for sure, but outside of that and it being a breakthrough role for Beyonce and Jennifer Hudson, I never really understood why it was so popular. My older sisters watched this movie nonstop when I was a child and I never got why - that was until the harsh reality of life got its chance with me. What a masterpiece of a film. Themes that have been explored in so many other movies seemed to hit so much deeper in Dreamgirls. Each rewatch as an adult, which has been oh so many times,  resulted in a fulfilling feeling of growth and transformation. I feel brand new every single time! Then I realized why I never got the hype, a child should stay in a child's place. So let's talk about it!  Deena  Incredibly misunderstood. From the beginning you could tell - much like the actress that portrayed her - that she wanted to be successful. Deena saw ...

  Resentment is dangerous because of its silence. Unlike anger, there is no real way to express resentment. Its ability to coexist with other emotions by giving them precedence is where the harm in resentment lies. It sits there, and feeds off your ignorance, nay your avoidance , of its presence. Building and waiting on its moment to make itself known. To notify you that this person or situation that you thought was out of sight, out of mind, has simply been out of sight.  Time is what heals all wounds, but the passage of time has no power without you doing your part in the healing process. Think about if you broke a bone, if the doctor doesn't set it back into place will it heal as it was?  So every time you're reminded of this heartbreaking and painful situation, just be. Be reminded and be resentful, until you aren't anymore. Find comfort in the impermanence of everything, emotions included.  It will go away, but you have to let it be.  🎧  R e s e n t m...